Episode Transcript
Speaker 1 00:00:09 Hey guys, welcome to the mom voice. This is Lauren and Sarah with episode 43. Okay. Lauren, I feel like we all know to have a moment of silence because my youngest, my baby has officially stopped napping. Can you believe that time is over? It's over, like for the first time ever in my motherhood journey, I don't have a napping child. He seems to, well, we'll, he'll be sorry in April, but I feel like your kids always nap, like overfeed. Well, over three we're thinking of land and Kate didn't. She stopped around this time, but I definitely that's my, like, I never got it now for up to three. Oh my gosh. That's crazy. That's that's a crazy stage to be in. I've been so gone out of that for so long. So I, I feel your pain, just a little nugget, but Hey, it is season two of the mom voice.
Speaker 1 00:01:00 Welcome back. Oh my gosh. It's been too long friends. It has been way too long. And I do feel like we kind of like dropped off the face. I know. Well, I really was like, Oh, but it kind of felt good. Like, we love this so much, but it just felt good to like tune out, you know? Totally just do the kids and the holidays and all the crazy. Yeah. But it's good to be back and getting back into routine and year new season and I kinda missed it. Oh yeah, absolutely. Cause legit, this is kinda my therapy session. Yeah. Oh yeah, for sure is like we sit and we talk about the things like my husband doesn't want to hear it, but it's funny. Cause we're like, Oh, we have so much content to like, and we're not even gonna squeeze it all in.
Speaker 1 00:01:40 We just have like a few things we're going to touch on today. But like we do a lot to bring from just even two weeks of life. Oh my gosh. I said to Lauren, okay. We need to record like four episodes this week and get it all fresh. Oh my gosh. So true. Okay. Well welcome back again. Like she said, we are so happy. You're all here. Um, if you are just finding us or if you are a longtime listener, we're so glad to have you. And if you don't mind, um, go leave us a rating and a review wherever you listen. It really does help us, um, get some traction and gain new listeners. And we always appreciate that. And then you can find us on social media at the mom voice podcast. We love to interact with you guys. So give us a shout out on their chat with us.
Speaker 1 00:02:25 Right. We kind of check it all day during the lair. Totally loved to talk with you. Um, we want it to be a little community, a moms and um, yeah, that's the goal. Okay. Here is what we're talking about on this episode. Yes. I said to Lauren, well, first of all, should we put us not a spoiler out there, but what do you say? Like alerting people the contract? Well, we were just, this is a lot of just like the women woman talk. So I don't know if dads or husbands or even if there's any men that care or listen, they might just, this one may not apply as much as you out. Yeah. We're just going to kind of talk woman stuff. We're going to be talking. Um, some like women's hygiene, um, the time of the month. I don't know why I'm like weird about saying the word tampon.
Speaker 1 00:03:10 We're curious and we're going to talk period stuff. And I mean, even kids, but I don't know. Just kind of some interesting, funny things we wanted to throw out. So in this episode I said to Lauren, okay. I had the weirdest conversation with somebody over the break and I am dying to hear what she still doesn't know what she's like. I'm seven. It for the podcast. It blew my mind. Not even kidding, like legit blew my mind and I can't wait to see what Lauren's view is on this. Cause I honestly don't know what you're going to say. I know you so well, but I don't know this part of you. Okay. Okay. So we're talking, um, birth control periods, hormones, tampons, all the things on this episode. And then depending on time, I'm not sure we might touch on new years, things like that.
Speaker 1 00:03:58 And then we're going to be wrapping up as always with our hits and misses. Yes. Of the break. Really? Yeah. I know. There's a lot to choose from. I'd spend two weeks of life again and we're like, woo. Right. It's so true. Okay. Well let's just jump in. Okay. Let me paint the scene. First of all, I'm going to try and keep this as least less gross. How do you say that? Not as gross as it probably is. Yeah. I'm going to, I'm not gonna say who I was having the conversation with. If you're listening and it was you, you know who you are. Okay. Here's the thing we were hanging out. And somehow the topic gets brought up that, um, these people, women, these women flush their tampons down the toilet. Okay. And I'm like, what you do. And they're like, uh, yeah, you don't doesn't everybody.
Speaker 1 00:04:53 And I'm like, they both said this cause it was two other gals. And I'm like, uh, absolutely not. Like there's no way you're supposed to be flushing. Right. They were adamant that that is the standard. Oh no, that Pete that do that. What do you do? Okay. So we'll tell us what you do. No. Why what's your philosophy? Why wrap them in toilet pampered or in the garbage? And I put them in the trash can, well, this is, this is funny because no, a hundred percent I'm telling you, you shouldn't, it like ruined your pipes. It ruins you like it will clog and like ruin your pipes. So don't think I didn't Google it after. Oh no, I know you're not supposed to my husband. Okay. I'll say this I'm a 50 50. There is something kind of gruesome and gross to think. Especially since I guess we're just going there guys.
Speaker 1 00:05:38 I know. I, since I had, um, my DNC, I've told Sarah this many times, my miscarriage after my last baby. So this has almost been like this for like three and a half years now. I swear my period has been just heavier than ever. And I'm not on birth control. My husband got upset to me. And so I'm just on the normal flow again. And I hate it so much. So I have a day or two of really a heavy period. So I, I just think there is something kind of gruesome about wrapping it up into toilet paper and throwing that wet soggy thing into your garbage. Cause it is just kind of gross. Totally, totally gross. And the smell. And you just have to be like up on like change, throwing it out and all that. So there are times when it's like gross.
Speaker 1 00:06:18 Like I do flush it. I have flushed it. I would say I am a 50 50. I would flush it every day if pipes ran an issue. But I know like we've had a time in our last house and I don't know if it was like period related. It could have been like a million things, kids and over toilet paper and all of it. But we had a clogged. It like didn't overflow or anything. But our pipe had like gotten clogged and my husband had to do like the rotor Rooter thing down, the, the, it was the shower drain. The shower had gotten like, and I don't know, I know it all meets up somewhere down there. So I have to kind of feel guilty sometimes being like, just in my mind, Oh my gosh, is that a tampon or two? That's stuck in the way and it's blocked it and you have to pay and deal with it or hire the plumber. And so that is like the root and reason behind me not doing it is merely for like plumbing structure, function and money. I don't want to pay to fix it. So it's like throw it out. Oh my gosh, I'm legit. I did not know. That was a thing I will say in public restrooms. I like, I, I, I love to flush it because I know they have like a stronger system and I don't feel as bad even though the sign in front of me says, do not flush your down. Okay.
Speaker 1 00:07:28 I know it's bad. I know. It's like, there are signs in every single public restroom. You go and sit down in a stall and it says, do not dispose of sanitary products down the toilet. And I'm like, what time I don't. But then there's just some times again where it's like, Oh, this is gross. I'm not like, Oh, but they were adamant that that only meant pads and it did not Stanford. Oh, see, no, I don't agree with that. I do agree with you that tampons are not to be flushed. I just break the rules. Sometimes. I just like didn't know this was a thing. I didn't know anybody did this and it just, so you had never, ever flushed a tampon. Never. If anything, I'm TMI here. I have legit take. If there's no trash, can you put in your purse or something? I will wrap it in a napkin and take it outside the bathroom into the nearest trash can or something like never would flush it down a toilet just because legit, I would think immediately it clogged and like I'm overflowing and there's like some habits you're fearful that the toilet is going to explode back at you.
Speaker 1 00:08:26 That does not go here. Had that bathroom situation, like total TMI here where you've like gone number two. And you're fearful that it's clogging. And then the toilet papers overflowing your like nightmare situation. That is a nightmare. Totally nightmare. And so I legit have never, ever, ever so scared. Yeah. Flushed it. And so I'm just dying to know I'm going to put this out there on social media and I want to know what the consensus is. I wonder it's so funny because I just know like my husband would be, do not fly if he were to catch me flashing and he'd be like, are you serious? Do not flash that you will clog up the pipe or the whatever, the whatever. Oh, a hundred percent. Well, I did go looking this up just so you know, and a hundred percent you are not supposed to be doing it.
Speaker 1 00:09:09 Um, but it does say on all the like allure.com cosmopolitan.com that it's like a fiercely debated topic. Oh my gosh. Really? That we are not the only ones questioning this. But um, the, the Tam, the tampon makers like Playtex, OB, they have had to go to efforts to like on their websites. Now they have statements saying like, you should not be flushing them. Well, they shouldn't be degradable. Well, let's be real. They do. But if you think about it, it goes against the purpose of a tampon. It's just absorb moisture and get a hamburger. Yes. So it doesn't fall out. Right. It expands. And so they go into this whole thing about how it takes like six months for a tampon to dissolve essentially, or breakdown in the pipes and that they do get like stuck in the water systems. I know we're so disgusting.
Speaker 1 00:10:03 I do something catered. I might, I have no nothing, no is a gross. So now this will just be, are just gross you out episode. Um, but anyway, it was saying like, they're, they're not, there are biodegradable versions, but even those take like several months to break down and they get clogged. There's all of these statements online for people who work for the water systems of cities, major cities, like don't do this. It's costing us billions with a B billions of dollars to fix in our cities. Can you believe people will be a good citizen and do not let tampons wait, flush them or not? No dope.
Speaker 2 00:10:41 <inaudible>
Speaker 1 00:10:47 Mom bird. Oh, do not flush those tampons. So I have a renewed sense of hope in my, in this arena for myself. I really don't do it very often. I really don't. But there'll be times where I'm just like, LA, I have really, I was like, I wonder what she's gonna say. Oh, that is so funny. I was like, so curious. I thought you were going to say they like, they don't use them because of like, Oh no religious reasons
Speaker 2 00:11:14 Gotta get with the tablet. I'm not sure what she's gonna say. Like, I don't have it. I didn't
Speaker 1 00:11:19 Know how we got on that subject. Oh, that is so funny. But it's like, so like, w well, have you heard about menstrual cups? No. And you said that, have you heard about them? No. You're going to have to tell me what, I don't know a ton about them. You guys also listening. We'll have to give some feedback if you use them, because I know some women do swear by them. They are kind of like a little silicone cup. Well, wait a minute. Wait, is this a birth control product? No, it's a period. Period. It catches the blood. Oh God. I guess it's supposed to be very sanitary. Very helpful. Like, it's cheaper. It's like, because you literally take it out. So it's like a little cup and I guess you just put it in and it's, I think it's like silicone. And so it just, and it's comfortable.
Speaker 1 00:12:02 It's nothing weird. And then you take it out and you dump it and wash it and you reuse it and then you can just reuse it month to month. Wait a minute. It's the cloth diaper version. Yeah. Yeah. Pretty much. Yeah. No, but women really swear by it. I know one or two people. I mean, friends of friends that do use them and do like them. I don't know anyone close, close to me that like uses it, but I've heard people really love them. Oh, no, I haven't. No, there's one or two brands that I've heard about. And, but yeah, people just think they're like, great. And they're practical. They save money there. They like them better than tampons. They feel like it's like more sanitary safer. Well, I'm just, this is so TMI. I really hope my parents aren't listening to this, but I would think that that would not let dry you out like a tampon.
Speaker 1 00:12:50 Yes. Cause you know, like when you get so dry dried out or it's on the, yeah. It hurts and the tail end of the period. You're not sure if you're done and it's just dry and you hate that. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, if anyone's listening and you do use one, just like DMS your experience, because again, like I've heard, they're really great. And really I'm fascinated. I know we should Google it. And like maybe one of us should give it a trial run and report back seriously. She's like, no, I will. But I will say I am. I'm so fed up with my period. Maybe I will give it a trial run before I was just telling Sarah that I am ready to, my husband got a vasectomy, so we are safe and done. I'm not on birth control, but I'm so over this subject, the period and the heavy flow.
Speaker 1 00:13:36 And I feel like my hormones are crazy. Well, let's just talk about this in a logical manner. Okay. So Lauren and I both are done having children. We are okay. Chapter in case we have like newer listeners, let's kind of back up and let's talk about our birth control journeys. Yeah. Um, I started out on birth control. Well, before I was even sexually active to manage my periods. So by the time I was in my late teens, my doctor had put me on the pill because I did have like horrible cramping and like, um, heavy, heavy flow and stuff like that. Right. And I guess that's pretty common. They would like put you on the pill to like manage that. And so literally I was on the pill, um, for 15 years, probably off and on in between my children. And I loved it. I felt so good on it.
Speaker 1 00:14:28 Like no PMs, no nothing. And so I'm just telling my story and then I want you to tell yours. And so when I got done having my children, um, I had a tubal done a tubal legation, is that what it's called? Yep. Um, and so at that point, you're on no birth control. You don't have any of the hormones or anything like that from the pill. Okay. I started having most that's right. Vicious, horrible, horrible mood swings, hormones, like all of it, PMs, cramping, backaches that I had never experienced before in my late thirties. Or you had didn't remember from your early teens, maybe. No, totally. Right. And I was kind of pissed off because I'm like, my doctor told me there's no side effects to having a tubal. Like, you'll just be fine. And I hadn't been regular. You're like just you for so long.
Speaker 1 00:15:21 So coming off. Right, exactly. So coming off, everything, not being on the pill anymore. I, this was like my normal body's hormones. And like, I guess I do have crazy PMs in the mood swings in all of it. And so that goes into the period. Talk that the flow, I was back to that like heavy. Yeah. It's the worst and miserable. And I've talked to my doctor about other things, but like, I'm so weary to tell him, tell him what they tell. Yeah. Friends, what they suggested. He just recently doing a AB ablation ablation, I think. Um, and I don't understand it enough to talk about it intelligently on my podcast, but I know it stops your periods. Like that's pretty much what it is and if you're done having your children and I've already had two bull, I don't think there's much harm in doing it.
Speaker 1 00:16:16 Um, so I might do that. I don't know, but I don't think I'm going to go the IUD route. That's just annoying. I'm sorry. But after I've had a tubal, do I want to go put something else in me for I know. Absolutely. Absolutely. And so funny enough though, one of, you know, someone I know she just had a hysterectomy done for this very reason, for a reason, because she had a tube done. I was having the crazy bleeding, the crazy periods, all of the stuff. And it's a long story that resulted in a hysterectomy, but it's just like, Oh my gosh, these things you just don't think about. Well, I just can't believe we're here. Even just listening to the lineup of all those things you just said, I can't believe we're already here at this stage of life and talk about your cause your birth control journey is very different than yeah.
Speaker 1 00:17:02 Oh very well. I remember when I first got married, I went on the pill and I didn't like it. I felt like it gave me wild mood swings, kind of a crazy person on it. So I went off of it, but we also kind of decided pretty early in our marriage that we'd get pregnant. So we had a baby. I'm trying to even think what I did between my first two. I had an IUD right before. No, not for to twins. Um, Oh, I wonder if it was I doing rhythm and stuff. Like I was trying to do some sort of like, you know, calendaring it and my whatever. There's like a whole book about like rhythm and you're tracking your period. You can even like take your temperature to know it's coming within your operating with these days. You're yeah. There's this whole thing and science to it, which is fascinating in people really get that down.
Speaker 1 00:17:52 And then they know themselves that, well, they don't need anything, but it was like, you know, I don't know, as a 26 something year old as with a newborn, that's like really hard to manage, so, Oh, you don't track your peers to this, to this day. Right. So, so yeah. Amen. So that was like, okay, whatever, but we did get pregnant. Thank the Lord. We were just fine until we wanted to. And then we got pregnant, we got pregnant with twins, which was wild. And so after they're twins, we were like, we have to be so super safe. So I did get the IUD because I was like, I can not risk getting pregnant till we're ready. And so I did do the IUD and I, I really liked it. What did you experience with that? Cause people have said it takes a week. I had no period.
Speaker 1 00:18:34 I know, period. If I see, I have, I can't remember specifically symptoms if I had any sort of, um, you know, side effects or hormones, it, it, you know, with, with the IUD, from what I understand, it's very minimal or, or hormones, like there's like no estrogen or very, very minor amount. So like, cause I was concerned about moods and hormones and or moodiness and craziness. And so he said, Oh, this is pretty, like, I think this is going to keep you pretty, even killed blah, blah, blah. And I did have a really good experience on it. So then I had Caleb and my last and um, and then I went to get the IUD in and I felt a little crazy for some reason. I don't know if I gave it like a true effort, a true amount of time that I should have, but for whatever reason, I kind of felt not myself on it.
Speaker 1 00:19:21 And I was like, eh, and I went and got it taken out. And so, um, and then funny enough, I did get pregnant by surprise. I don't know, within a few months of that. And so, and then as I've mentioned, it was my fourth pregnancy, fifth child, but I did miscarry that baby. And then I did have a DNC, which I still think, like I mentioned, I think it affected my body. Cause I just feel like when they go in there, it's kind of similar to an ablation where I feel like they like really clean out your uterus. And so I don't know if that just kicks, started my periods into full blown mode again. Cause yeah, when you're on birth control and having babies all those years, you don't have a period for multiple, multiple years. You forget how you're tracking it. You forget how heavy the, the flow can be.
Speaker 1 00:20:05 You can forget the cramps and stuff. It's like crazy when it comes back with full of vengeance. So then I'd say for about the last three years, I've been just in normal mode. I have not taken birth control. My husband had a vasectomy about, I don't know, six or eight months after Yara miscarriage. He went and did a vasectomy. So we've been done in done officially. And so I've had no birth control, but right now where I'm at in life, I'm 35 years old, no more children. But I feel like my periods are just heavy, very obnoxious. Obviously I don't cramp a super time. I feel like I'm very moody. I feel like I have really heavy PMs stage irritability. Like not myself kind of out of, out of, out of body with like my anger or attitude or mood. And I hate that, you know?
Speaker 1 00:20:56 Cause it is so true. Like, you know, it's not you, but it doesn't matter. You're feeling it. And you're just going with it and you're frustrated and you're mad at people and it's just, I hate it. It's just a gray cloud for a few days. Hormones are like the craziest things because I can remember like seriously, the most I've ever yelled at my husband. I can remember like what we were wearing that night, where we were standing in our bedroom and me freaking out over the stupidest stuff. And it's literally, like I said, an outer body experience, like stop yelling. Sarah stops like this doesn't really matter, but we're just going to take it to the death. Like you really feel that way in the moment when your husband does it, except at light, doesn't just say, Oh, I need to hug her.
Speaker 2 00:21:48 Count my Raymond episode. I have to. Okay. We've set the bar.
Speaker 1 00:21:53 My all time. Favorite series is everybody loves Raymond. And there is one episode I made all my friends. She literally pulled it out on a girl's night and we all watched. It is not the most relatable episodes. You'll post that this week, just like a link to go watch the PMs episode. And there's one where his wife, Deborah, she is just raging PMs about the coasters and the laundry and all of the kids and all these things. Yeah.
Speaker 2 00:22:19 Well what do you want? What do you want? She did. She hug me. She cries and you just, we all can. And he's like, you just like, you're like a vicious animal right now. I mean, it is so true. I am no. Oh, I know. It's it's
Speaker 1 00:22:39 Well, let me throw another curve ball at you that I got to reading about after I started having all these feelings is have you heard of peri menopause? Oh my gosh. Wait, what is this? No, that's so weird. You're saying this because I literally Googled symptoms of menopause today. No way. Yeah, I did. Okay. My mom had it menopause really early. Yeah. So what's peri-menopause yeah, yeah. There's something called perimenopause, which is early. Like it's, pre-menopause essentially, it starts five to eight years before. True menopause. And it's all the things it's, you know, you can have like irregular periods, be it like your timing might get off. You might have heavy flow, like light flow. It can manifest in different women differently. Um, you can have like the sweats, the hot flashes, irritability, the mood swings. My gosh. I'm legit. Wondering if I'm starting to get peri-menopause I'm wondering that too, because well, and just not kidding finale to my story is like, I'm at the point where I feel like I want to go get the IUD to help maybe stabilize me a little bit, hate to use that word, but I would love for the period to be minimal or gone again.
Speaker 1 00:23:48 Cause I'm just over that. And then the mood and the PMs is so bad. I'm like, it can't make me worse than I am right now. So maybe it'll help level me out. Right. So, but it's funny because I'm like, I'm kind of, you know, coming up in my, whatever, I am mid thirties coming into late thirties soon. I'm like, what if I'm going into menopause early? Like my mom did peri-menopause could very much. I'm almost I'm unfortunately I'm wanting, I know label. I'm like, I don't feel myself. And I'm like, there has to be an answer to this. Like what is it? So it's like, not that I want to be perimenopause, but what if it is? Well, I have a lot of the symptoms. I don't know. I'm going to actually go talk to my OB-GYN about it. I mean, obviously there's nothing you can do about it.
Speaker 1 00:24:29 It's a phase of life and then menopause is a phase of life. But this is a very good question too, but okay. Going into this, um, I know you are seeing your OB, do I go to my OB or do I have to get a guy? No, because I'm not having a baby, but are they the same thing? A hundred percent. It's an OB-GYN. Cause I remember like my OB saying, well, a calf. Yeah. If you're having babies, you should just go to a GYN gynecologist, right? Yeah. Cause there are gynecologists that don't deliver babies. There are separate, well maybe they just don't want to take call anymore, but no they're supposed to do both because, because the obese are the ones doing the baby stature tricks. Right. They do the babies like women's health. And I would like to stay with my OB, they know my history, but I've also heard of like, you're done babies, go onto the guy now how it typically works.
Speaker 1 00:25:15 I feel like is like the younger OB-GYNs they like delivering the babies and getting the 2:00 AM, wake up calls and like doing the doctor rent, like the hospital runs and all of that. And I think when they get older, they tend to move more into the gynecology field because they don't like taking the hospital calls. Like, you know, they're overwhelmed the midnight deliveries. Right. And so, but no, I mean, my office is very much babies. Oh yeah. But at the same will be, Jen is very heavy on the gin side for sure. Yeah. And I have to double check is to if I know him. Um, but yeah. So no, I, I love my OBGYN. I feel like he understands me more than like most doctors would because he's kind of been through the journey of like knows you. Yeah. You know, the, the babies.
Speaker 1 00:26:05 And I feel like a lot of the side effects I've had from my pregnancies, I have like vein issues and my legs and different things. Like he's been there for all of that stuff. Totally. Um, my thyroid has been affected by my pregnancies, like all of that stuff. So no, definitely. Yeah. I would go talk to him about that, but I know. And funny enough, I left out the NuvaRing. I tried after my, I tried the NuvaRing too. I tried to remember when that was to be the same time mine was, I went and got it. After that screaming match, I'm telling you about that's right. You did for, yeah. I tried it for like six months and it helped, I don't think it helped me. It was annoying to me. It kept falling out. I don't know if I was doing it wrong, whatever.
Speaker 1 00:26:50 I just got over it. And I was like, this is annoying. Am freaking out too. Well, why am I doing this? Yeah. And so, well this brings up a whole nother point while we're talking birth control. Okay. Well let's just wrap that up by saying hormones. Suck. Yeah. If you're going through it, like, I'm sorry. Yeah, we all are. This one, like the woman journey is just nuts and to know like, yeah. Hysterectomy and menopause and all these things are down in the future here. It's just, Oh, but I feel like hormones, post babies, late post having people don't talk about it. It's wild. Been horrible. Like over the past, like 15, let's say 15 years from when I started having my PR, well 20, I guess from when I started having my period to now, I feel like now I'm dealing with more hormonal, emotional days than I ever have before.
Speaker 1 00:27:41 Right. Right. And I'm more knowledgeable and in tune with my body that I know their hormones. Yeah. Right, right. You can define do have the night sweats and like the hot flashes already. Oh yeah. You asked Jeremy. I wake up twice, twice a week. Soaked. Gosh buddy. I don't have that. I feel like I have, for the past two years, I've kind of had late night. I've told you this. Yes. And I just I'll be like, Oh, it's the air era was too cold or something. Right. To me, I'm like reading the perimenopause dive and I'm like, Oh my God, I need to pause. Okay. I have to bring this up because I was sitting in a doctor's office over the break and I was watching this news talk show, whatever. And they bring up this article or they bring up this conversation that says there is a new birth control injection, a shot for males, for our husbands where they would take a shot in their penis.
Speaker 1 00:28:45 Oh my gosh. To prevent pregnancy. What do you think of that? Would George do it? Oh, Oh, a hundred percent. Oh yeah. Oh, Jeremy said no way. He's like, but he also went and got the first ectomy, no question. And he was like, I would do it again just to confer, like to con like the comfort, the risk. Yeah. They're just at a point you just can't risk it. Like when you close that door and if it's, you know, family size, choice, financial, whatever it be to make you to make that decision, they're just when you have that surprise, which we had, that we did experience that feeling of an a surprise. I never thought we would, but it was surprise pregnancy. It, it, it kinda, it rocks your world. And just to imagine maybe having my youngest beef six, seven, eight, and a surprise coming, I just can't even fathom, Oh my God.
Speaker 1 00:29:35 He would have rather sealed that door, shut tight, confirmed, comfortable, confident. And he would do it again. And he says that, and I just felt like that was the least he could do. The tuba would have been a whole extra thing for me, like after my DNC. And then he was like, voluntarily, like, no, I'll do the sect me done. So birth control. I'm sure that would be a little painful, a shot into the penis. But to, again, again, to feel confident, is it into the penis or into the scrotum? No, I th I think it's yeah. Into the penis. So let me write, he would do that. I really do to feel calm to if for some reason he didn't want me to go back on birth control being crazy, or I didn't like it or whatever. I think he would take one for the team for the team quite literally.
Speaker 1 00:30:19 So what it is is over in India, um, their government, it's a government agency that, um, put together this study, I guess they have come up with a, um, a shot that throughout the course of their trials, the clinical trials and all it's proven to be about 97% successful with no side effects. Um, and it's being called the world's first male contraceptive. Okay. Contrast. Isn't a condom of contraceptive. Yeah, I guess so. Yeah. Let's yeah, yeah, yeah. I guess the <inaudible> yeah. That's, that's pretty, I'm Tony, it's a birth control method that will last approximately 13 years. Um, and involves injecting a Paula. Um, yes. It's effective. What does it do? Oh, a plot block. Something I was gonna say is go in the bloodstream. What is it doing? It blocks the sperm from leaving the testicles. Oh wow. You get a shot of anesthesia and then you are knocked out.
Speaker 1 00:31:25 So it's pretty, I think it's local, local. Oh, okay. Okay. And then, um, and then they give you the shots. So Jeremy would not do it. He said, absolutely not. So it was kind of funny. And then they, um, and he was like, well, why like women already have so many? I mean, he sounds so like old school when I say these things, he's like, you guys already have that. So figured out why do I need to do that? I'm like, yes, you're the one man, because the man wants to do it all the time. And so it's like, you know, I feel like it's a 50 50 at that point. Right. I mean, and we're delivering the babies. You can, you can step up for one little part here. I know, I know it was so funny. And so I was reading, um, some of the Indian men, because again, it was developed in India.
Speaker 1 00:32:06 Um, they were all, they were interviewing all these different Indian men and they were all like, um, yeah, I don't think so. Some were saying like, are risks or something like, like, I mean, I could see if there's risks of like, it could break something or like interfere with feeling or no, I don't know anything, but if it's merely just the procedure, that's interesting that they would be, so Americans are probably more likely to do it because men over here get vasectomies. I think in other parts of the world, the men don't do that as much. Like the women kind of take control of that. So, um, we're for sure. Probably the ones who will be doing it first, but it will be interesting to see. Yeah. It will be interesting to see if it takes note. They said in years, is it reversible or does it take 13 years to go away now you're going to ask me all these questions.
Speaker 1 00:32:56 I don't have it. That is a big question though. Now, are you like foolproof for 13 years? What did you want to have a child? I know. Yeah. So that's the kind of a red flag. I mean, I, I do think it's, I, yeah, I think it's kind of interesting. So very interesting. That's nuts. It said it's going to take about six to seven months to get the proper regulatory approvals and then they'll be taking it to market. So, Oh my gosh. Um, so that is just all the gross things. Oh, so many things. So not gross guys. No, they're not. It's part of life. Unfortunately for us women. It's part of life. And it's so funny. I was talking to a friend over the break too about, um, her daughter had started her period. Oh my gosh. I was just like thinking, Oh my gosh, like the day I'm going to have to talk to my Kate about it.
Speaker 1 00:33:42 And I so vividly, remember my mother teaching me all about that. And she was so good about like, making me feel like normal. Yeah. It was so fun. She was telling me like, Oh, she's kind of embarrassed to like, you know, she wears a sweatshirt around her ways just in case Oh yes. Those feelings, you know, for fear and the nerves. And even just, well, here in Arizona, we swim so much and the summers are such a big part of our lives, like tampons right up front for girls. And it's a lot to handle. I mean, it is going to be a interesting little, Oh my gosh. For us, we each only have one girl. We have one shot to make one shot. Right. Um, okay, well let's bet. No. Before I wrap up, I do want to say, you guys hit us up on social media.
Speaker 1 00:34:33 You're like tips and tricks of these dates, all about these. What do you call them? Cups and menstrual cups and all the things we want to hear your experiences and yeah. Yes. And maybe birth controls that you have really light. I mean, I'm going to go in and see what my doctor says. I feel like the IUD might be a good option, but there might be something better, better per se. If you have a good fix for hormones that does not period. Yeah. So bizarre routine. I want to hear about it. And also I want to know if you flush or not, let's be real. Oh my gosh. Yes. I can't get over that. That was our intro there. I want to know. Okay. Let's wrap up with our hits and misses of the week. What was your hit Lauren? My hit is, um, I just have all the Christmas put away and I did it pretty quick.
Speaker 1 00:35:25 I couldn't believe it. Usually. I kind of drag it out through the new year, but we had it down like on the 30th and kind of put up and that felt good. I don't know this year, I, this year I just been ready for the new year. Like I think I was, I, I, I love the holiday. I just, yeah. I just feel ready for kind of a fresh start, put away the old stuff. Like some new rules, some new kind of like, just a lot of the things we've talked about actually in Georgia. And I have talked about to, um, kind of some tips from Shawnee way back in the last episodes and some things that I want to implement. And we just were like, okay, let's get through the crazy. And then we're really going to kind of buckle down and just start some new regiments and some new ideas.
Speaker 1 00:36:07 And, and so Christmas came down and I was sad to see it go, but like, it feels good to have things cleaned up and we're back to school and a schedule. So that felt really good. Yeah. A hundred percent. And I feel though like, well, we're still like trying to get all, all of ours organized, but I was so sad to see it go down this time. I felt like it went fast so fast. I feel like the whole month of December flew by, no, I mean, we were literally just talking at Thanksgiving and now it's, I know it's so sad. And so, and I'll, I'm going to go into this in a different episode, but I had my eye surgery over Christmas and I was kind of out for a bulk of the Christmas. Yeah. So yeah, I really am like, God, as we're wrapping up Christmas, I was like, Oh, you know, um, well, mine is kind of, that's so funny.
Speaker 1 00:36:59 Um, I think everybody kind of has organizing on the brain right now. Right. Totally funny. Um, my husband and I, we went to home Depot to get like some new bins for the garage. Yeah. You were sharing it on Instagram. Yeah, that's right. And um, the home Depot employee, he was like, Oh my gosh, we, these things are like flying off the shelf. Oh yeah. Everybody's coming in here. Like it's. So it's kind of just like the new year's spring cleaning all of it. I know we're hitting the gym and we're like, everybody is like to the gym diets and organizing. I feel like, um, but no, that's my hit too is I feel like over the break, we've slowly kind of just been making our way through the house. We did closets. Oh, good. At the pantry. And I just mean like weeding through stuff.
Speaker 1 00:37:45 Well, especially with new stuff coming in, like taking out the old, cause there's so many new presents. They all need to find the new toys need a space. It's like, Oh, but I'm kind of, I mean, I wouldn't say I'm the worst by any means. But like my husband had me go through all my shoes and he was like, I want you to literally get rid of half of these. Oh yeah. And I was like, I think I could do that. I mean, some of them, I haven't worn in over a year or two and it felt so good to just like totally. Yeah. So I did that. We're still in the process of doing our garage. Um, a man that garage just keeps growing the stuff just stunning. Oh. I'm like the worst part is with our garage. I feel like we clean it out once a month and stuff keeps reoccurring.
Speaker 1 00:38:31 The junk keeps piling back up in the spots and I'm like, guys, no, no, no. Where does it all come from? I don't like it's multiplying. Can we, well, I need to figure out a better system because where it comes from for me, a lot of the times is I feel like I just clean out my car and put it in a big bag and throw it by the door and get mad and grumpy about it. And I'm like clean this and put it away and then just reoccurring. Oh, I'm ready to legit a cycle throwing stuff away. Totally leave it in my car. It's in the trash. Okay. Well tell me what your miss is. So my misses kind of funny this time, but I've been looking for a time to bring it up and I'm just like, I know we're, we don't have a ton of time, so I'm going to make this quick.
Speaker 1 00:39:11 But, um, my miss, it's not really my miss, but my daughter's miss, I guess has sense. I probably brought it up before I wanted to mention Evelyn's hair. Oh, have I brought it up on it's on the podcast or anything? Um, really fast. It's hard. It's a miss because it's hard for me to, for, to watch Evelyn. Um, my daughter, she has really, really short hair. She's seven, almost eight and a half and she really still has her baby fine hair. I mean, it's not pastor ears. And she really only has like little bit of longer parts on top of the, underneath the story, baby hair, I guess. Very, very blonde, very, you know. Yeah. Fair scanned all of it. And so I've done my research. I've done, like my we've done blood tests. I've talked to the pediatrician, like we've kind of done the run around I've Googled.
Speaker 1 00:39:59 And I've asked my friends. I kind of wanted to just put it out there because this is a network of people. And I don't know, maybe there's someone out there that has experienced it similar. Um, but she, her hair just doesn't grow. Right. And so she, it's funny over winter break and maybe the last like month, um, for summer, I knew this day would come, but for some reason or another, she is just fully noticed now. And she's just, she gets upset about it and kind of teary and I won't long hair. And when my hair grow, she's all about makeup and hair and doing her hair and bows and yeah. All the girls things. And so when her hair, I mean girls, her age, Georgia, for example, Sarah's daughter, same age, her hair is to her mid back where Ellen doesn't have hair pastored ears.
Speaker 1 00:40:44 Right. Not even chin this off, but you do feel like it's not growing or it's breaking off. I talked about breakage and we've talked about like silk pillowcases to prevent that and careful brushing. I don't know. I don't, I don't know. And even if it was breaking the image, like it would have to be break like breaking off constantly to stay a shortage as it is at age seven. You know what I mean? Like it would have to be some, some, and if it was breakage, that's where I feel like it would be like a deficiency. Like your hair is not strong. Like your nails aren't strong, like something, but the blood doesn't show any work. It's just literally not growing, I think. And so I, which is bizarre because you have yes, such crazy, which I have such thick, crazy curly, like big coarse hair.
Speaker 1 00:41:32 And even my who has like ball, like on thinned and bolded, bolded gone balding, balding, balding over the years, even though in his younger years though, had really thick hair too. And all your yeah. And my, my boys have monthly haircuts where Evelyn has never had a haircut. So it's like, so anyways, I just wanted to throw it out there. I guess we're on the aspect of talking and hoping for some feedback, if anyone has a child or even an experienced themselves like that, I have had a few just kind of be like, Oh yeah, my hair didn't grow till I was like, you know, usually it's like, Oh my, I had no hair till I was like five or six, but now we're well past that. And it's seven and every year for the last two or three years, I'm like, this is gonna be the year it's going to grow.
Speaker 1 00:42:14 It's going to get long and thick and right. And it just still has no. And so, um, and now it's, I knew the day would come, she would notice and it'd be sad about it or question it and wonder and feel different. And so we're there. And so I just, if anyone knows, I mean, we've done the Biotene vitamins, we've done the, you know, we've done like most anything out there, but maybe there's something I'm missing. And um, also if, um, Oh, I just lost my train of thought. Nevermind. So yeah. Just if you have any thoughts or feedback or what I was gonna say is sometimes people say this was it that, um, it hits it puberty. Like when they go into puberty, that's when the hair starts to grow. Puberty's middle school, like seventh grade, eighth grade she's in first. So that's still so far away.
Speaker 1 00:42:59 So I'm kind of like, Oh, like period starting, you know, that kind of stage like 10, no, 11, 12. I didn't start my period till I was 12. So this is another odd question, but I'm going to ask just in case somebody else is wondering, does she have hair, other places on her body, like arms and legs and stuff, but she's not a hairy girl. She has like a little bit of peach fuzz on her arms and like her legs, she's not overly hairy. Cause there are some kids that like are hairy, like their Lake hairs even long, already. She doesn't necessarily, but she has eyebrows and eyelashes, like normal things have grown just specific. Her head hair has not grown longer. It is literally just to her, um, her ears, like the bottom of her ear lobe. So anyways, there we go. That's our mess.
Speaker 1 00:43:41 We're just dealing with get, get, yes, you let us know. Um, what's your <inaudible> again, I'm going to go into my full story on my eyes, but um, I'm supposed to be taking care of my eyes and doing all these eyedrops. Right. Drop regiments and FYI guys. I still cannot see good. Like I'm looking at Lauren right now, probably five feet away from me and she's blurry. I can't see her so crazy. Go into my whole story next week on the podcast. Um, but yeah, I, I've just been kind of bad at the eyedrop regimen, which is horrible. They want you to do like these three to four days a week or three a day drops and then hour really drops. And I'm just absolutely horrible at it. And it's definitely been my miss. Um, and just a little spoiler. I had a panic in the chair while I was getting my eyes lasered.
Speaker 1 00:44:34 Yeah. She needs to tell a full story. We're going to tell the full story next week it was eventful and an emotional roller coaster for me and still ongoing. You're still doing, you're still dealing with this and that's why I'm wanting to hold off on time. Get a little, get some more closure with it. Um, yeah, but, but I would say kind of Christmas, it was kind of a miss overall for me. I was out of it. I had very high expectations for this surgery. I was thinking that it would be a lot easier than it was going to be. And I was totally let down by it. So it was definitely my miss. I wasn't able to put like, be the Sante that I wanted to be the night before and like do all the things. Yeah. I was a total miss on the cookies and the milk and like all of it, it skipped this year and it's like, Oh man. But I was just like absolutely miserable. Like climb my eyes out pretty much. Sorry. No, you're a trooper. That was my mess. You guys. Um, and anyway, and let's be honest. I was like on my period throughout the whole week
Speaker 2 00:45:39 Comes back full circle to it.
Speaker 1 00:45:42 So hormonal mess the entire week. Like
Speaker 2 00:45:45 My husband just doesn't have a care I'm down. Oh my God. He's just having fun. I'm here. Like, you know, whatever feeling sorry for myself. So hormones are just a, you know what, total B words. Yes they are. All right.
Speaker 1 00:46:01 Well again, we would love to hear from you. Um, hit us up on Instagram. I'm never on Facebook, but sometimes Lauren's on Facebook. Yeah. We're mainly on Instagram at the mom boys podcast and we will be back next Monday. It's season two guys and this 20, 20, 20, 20. We're bringing it at you. Yeah, we are. All right. We will be back next week. All right. See ya.
